It was Saturday afternoon and I had a couple of errands to do. One was to pick up a couple of items at the supermarket in town, some tagliatelle pasta and a bottle of wine. “Buona domenica,” the cashier said: Have a good Sunday. It’s a standard greeting as the last day on Italian calendars approaches.

Sunday is still a big deal here. unlike the U.S. where it usually feels like just another day. Sure, American banks are closed, but you can pretty much do everything else. Even in New York, which still has ridiculous liquor laws, banishing meal stapes like wine to the liquor store. Unlike pretty recently, liquor stores were closed on Sunday, so if you forgot to buy wine to go with dinner you were either out of luck or making a trip over the bridge to New Jersey. That changed a few years ago, but still, store hours are limited. 

It’s true that commerce doesn’t shut down completely here in Italy any more. Supermarkets and malls (yeah, we have ’em here, too) are open. A lot of it is out of necessity, because just as in the U.S. and elsewhere, it takes two incomes to support a household. (I bet European Union rules enter into it too.) Being able to load up on groceries is a big help to harried parents. Still, Sunday has a more relaxed vibe and most people treat it as their day to hang out, have a long afternoon meal with family and friends, and maybe take a walk or a dip afterward. Just like it used to be when I was a kid in New York. 

While the sabbath obervance started as a religious thing, that’s not necessarily the case here any more. You always see on American news sites that Italy “is a Catholic country,” but it’s a much less religious place than you’d think. Anecdotally it seems that only older women and their son/husband-drivers attend Sunday mass. And surveys show that about 25 percent of Italians attend mass at least once a month; about 30 percent of Americans can say the same.

Anyway, I like Sundays. And now that I’m no longer a wage slave, I don’t have to dread Sunday evening, when thoughts of work used to cloud my mind and I’d try to distract myself by watching something good on TV. I guess it all goes back to my roots. When I was really little we’d go to my grandparents house in Brooklyn most Sundays, when my grandmother held court in her dining room filled with heavy, wood-inlayed dark furniture. My parents kept it going long after my grandparents passed on. My father would play operas on the stereo, usually Aida or Cavalleria Rusticana while my mom put together what is now usually called “Sunday sauce,” a ragù filled with various pieces of meat and meatballs.

Before dinner, my father would make whisky sours for himself and mom and maybe our neighbor Joe, a Bavarian immigrant who kept up the European habit of making the rounds of neighbors, to say hi and maybe get a drink. Sunday afternoon dinner—pranzo in Italian—was always in the dining room, except in summer when it got a lot less formal and moved out to the backyard picnic table.

WE KEPT IT UP WITH OUR KIDS, even as they became adults. I won’t bore you with details, but in the past few months before we moved here, The Spartan Woman devised the most labor-intensive Sunday meals that left the kitchen a wreck. She usually made bread or focaccia and a dessert. A couple of times, we went informal and made a few pizzas. I was assigned to primo duty, including multiple step risotti. My daughters and I drank a fair amount of wine and we took walks after dinner to work it off. Those Sundays were a good time to unwind and talk with my splendid daughters and their partners. I wish I could somehow pop into New York and do that once a week. 

But I can’t—our private jet’s in the shop for awhile—so we do what we can here. Generally we make a more involved pranzo (the main midday meal) than usual. I’ll bring out better wine. And we invite friends. It’s great when our local friends come over, because then we have a total immersion in Italian day. Living in the country, we have less one-on-one talking time. 

And I treasure the summer Sundays we’ve been having with our old friend from New York, M. Chasse. In a lot of ways, these Sundays are like our old days in New York. When our paper went out, a group of us that I like to call the Gang of Four would repair to Restaurant Florent in the meatpacking district and spend a dissolute afternoon eating and drinking, French-New York style, for hours. Except that now we have the Umbrian countryside and a couple of sweet dogs to amuse us while we relax over an hours-long meal.

We’re mostly vegetarian—we’ll have fish or seafood as a decadent treat—and so is our friend. At the same time, we have no strictures on wine, coffee, after-dinner drinks, aperitifs, whatever. So last Sunday dinner was tagliatelle with zucchine cream (see my post on Italian-English veggie sex-change operations), Prosecco, seitan in the form of cutlets (I’ve yet to set down the loose recipe The Spartan Woman follows to do this) and a fresh summer salad. We had melon and limoncello for dessert. 

An afternoon dinner isn’t the only Sunday game in town. For some reason, Sunday morning’s a good time to do some hiking. We live in an area criss-crossed by trails. And we can get in the car and drive to mountaintops and parks up in the Apennines, which we did today. Sure, it was crowded—it’s a holiday weekend here, with ferragosto coming up on Tuesday. We’d usually go up to Valsorda, above the town of Gualdo Tadino, on a weekday. But sometimes it’s good to mix it up with the crowd of nature lovers and observe our fellow Italians on holiday. Plus, the pup loves to meet other dogs, and being a cute little one, he’s a women magnet.

I’m always asking myself why do I do certain things—it’s in my nature to second guess everything I do, and I’ve thrown out a lot of stuff that I eventually found silly or meaningless. You know, meetings, material striving, telephone landlines, listening to Kanye West. Sunday is a keeper. We all need a commerce-free day of hedonism, whether it’s walking around a mountaintop or feeding my favorite people and keeping that connection to an increasingly distant past.

NOTE: Notayearnotintuscany is doing the Italian thing and taking the rest of August off. See you next month.